Trapped in the mirror : adult children of narcissists in their struggle for self

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Label

Trapped in the mirror : adult children of narcissists in their struggle for self

Title remainder

adult children of narcissists in their struggle for self

Statement of responsibility

Elan Golomb

Creator

• Golomb, Elan

Subject

• Adjustment (Psychology)
• Ajustamento emocional
• Narcisismo
• Narcissism
• Adjustment (Psychology)
• Parent and child
• Parent and child
• Relações pai-criança
• Narcissism

Language

eng

Summary

• "There is a group of unrecognized victims whose number is very great. They often do not seek the help they need because they don't recognize they suffer from a problem for which there is a solution. These are the children of narcissistic parents." "All healthy people regard themselves as special beings capable of achievement and worthy of love. They stay in touch with their feelings and try to do their personal best. Their standards are internal and realistic since they have a good idea of who they are and what they can accomplish (such objectivity is not insignificant)." "Narcissists are wholly different. They unconsciously deny an unstated and intolerably poor self-image through inflation. They turn themselves into glittering figures of immense grandeur surrounded by psychologically impenetrable walls. The goal of this self-deception is to be impervious to greatly feared criticism and to their own roiling sea of doubts." "Because the narcissist's life is organized to deny negative feelings and to maintain an illusion of superiority, the narcissist's family is forcibly conscripted into supporting roles. They have no other option if they wish to get along. The narcissist's spouse must be admiring and submissive to keep the marriage going, and the children will automatically mold themselves to any image that is projected upon them."
• "Trapped in the Mirror is the first book to explore the private struggle of adults who were raised by narcissistic parents. Dr. Elan Golomb, herself the child of a narcissist, reveals the unique ordeal faced by these adult children. Their stories tell of their efforts to free themselves from the web of their parents' distortions. They often feel hopeless and paralyzed. Sometimes they break through to a sense of their true selves, and then they know freedom and joy. The journey is a rough one for all who undertake it. It is also the only trip worth taking. You who recognize your story on these pages can take hope from the experience of others. Dr. Golomb shows that it is possible to undo the illusions under which we were raised. We can work to rid ourselves of falsely imposed images in order to find our true identities. Book jacket."--Jacket

Action

committed to retain for EAST

Cataloging source

DLC

Index

index present

LC call number

BF575.N35

LC item number

G66 1991

Literary form

non fiction